Male or Female Cat: which One to adopt?

The first question you ask yourself before adopting a cat is usually which gender would be best. Indeed, the common places want the male to be more playful and brawling than the female, whereas this one would be softer and at the same time more distant …

But sometimes you hear the opposite, which proves that generalities are not to be taken at the bottom of the word! In fact, if we can observe certain trends in the behavior of male or female cats, it is above all the temperament specific to each animal that should be taken into account to choose it.

The behaviour of the male cat

Again, observations of male cat behaviour can only reveal trends. In addition, it is important to be aware that these differences will not appear until puberty, corresponding to the sexual maturity of the cat. That’s when your kitty could start running away, mark his territory and fight with other cats if he has access to the outside.

This can make it easier to get hurt or risk being hit by a vehicle because it will be more adventurous than a female. However, some even whole male cats are of calm temperament and slippery and will not necessarily go to rub shoulders with the dangers of the street! It should be noted, however, that for these reasons, the life expectancy of males is statistically shorter than that of females…

On the other hand, adopting a cat rather than a cat eliminates the risk of ending up with an unwanted litter on the arms. Each sex therefore has its advantages and disadvantages, but these differences can be easily resolved by sterilization, which also helps to put an end to the undesirable urinary marking behavior in the male.

Differences that are not taken for granted

Even more than the behavioral trends already mentioned, the character of the male cat is far from always the same! However, the testimonies suggest that the duds are more cuddly and present than the females, while being more proud and lonely. However, a cat will be just as able to sulk if you have left your home several days…


Male kittens also have a reputation for being more mischievous and dynamic, and small females have a reputation for being more shy and reserved. But in truth, this can be the lot of all kittens. Within a litter, we will see very different temperaments between the little ones regardless of their gender. This is why a fine observation of their attitudes is the best solution to make one’s choice rather than focusing on this criterion. A young female can act as much as a young male!

Also, in terms of understanding with the family and other animals in the house, it is equally wrong to take for granted the tendency to rivalry and fighting generally attributed to male cats, this trait of behavior essentially concerning relationships same-sex conflicts in the context of territorial and sexual conflicts.

The behaviour of the female Cat

Whole have this major disadvantage of having their heat, a phenomenon whose manifestations can be difficult to bear: untimely and continuous meowing, urinary marking, stress, excitement… Fortunately, all of these side effects can be permanently removed by sterilization. It should be noted that this operation is more expensive in the female than castration in the male, this financial aspect can be an important argument.

A cat can have up to four litters per year, so the issue of sterilization is not to be overlooked! In terms of daily life, the female is often thought to be easier to live than the male because it is more discreet but also more casanière. However, it again depends on the temperament of each animal and the expectations you have of the relationship with it. Some females can be extremely independent and you won’t often see them indoors, heat or not!

If they have a reputation for being more often shy, fearful or reserved than males, keep in mind that the sociability of a cat is also a matter of education and habits given to it.

Asking the Right questions

As you will have understood, the sex of your future cat cannot be enough to determine its behavior. So it’s not a decisive factor for the success of your relationship. On the other hand, sexual differences between male and female involve practical aspects that need to be decided.

If you want to let her out, adopting a female means taking the risk of unwanted litters, unless you lock her up during the heat. Be aware that these periods of heat will be difficult to live with and that you will probably need to consider sterilization. For a male cat, the major problem will be urinary tagging in the house if it does not have the ability to go out. The choice is therefore to be made according to your situation: habitat, lifestyle, budget …